Wed, Nov. 22nd, 2006, 09:32 pm
christian_83: First Post
So I just joined this community the other day and I guess this would be my first post.
So I have a question. If someone is very religious can a relationship work with someone who is not religious?
Sat, Nov. 25th, 2006 03:14 pm (UTC)
This is a very difficult question.
We can start by looking at 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 which states, "Don't become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That's not partnership; that's war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God's holy Temple? " (The Message).
Personally, I find this very hard. Not necessarily with whom I date--how could we share so much in common, but not the most important thing. I would not be interested in dating somebody who did not share the same general beliefs as I did. Where is the relationship going?
The hard part I have is as we continue the verse. It talks about best friends and strolling w ith people. I have a hard time with this. I have several close friends who are not Christians. I can't imagine going through some things in the past without them. But, if you re-read the scripture, it kinda points the other way.
But, to answer your question, I do not think a relationship cana work between a believer and a non-believer--the end goal is not the same.
Does that answer any of your question?
Sat, Nov. 25th, 2006 11:58 pm (UTC)
I would suggest not using the message as a primary means of directly relating to the bible. It is known to be a little bit... unfair in places to the meaning at which it attempts to find.
2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2Co 6:15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? (KJV)
1Co 10:23 All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not. (KJV)
Co 10:23 All things are lawful to me, but not all things profit. All things are lawful to me, but not all things build up. (MKJV)
Unequally yoked is a catch-phrase Christians have been throwing around for a while now which is fairly easy to understand but often completely ignored. Basically, if you were to take two oxen and strap them in together in a farm setting, you would "yoke" them (or put them side by side with a strong wooden beam connecting them, with wood actually bridging the animals). The idea is that the oxen are hearty enough to be able to press against the wood without hurting the animals and is a direct harness instead of multiple indirect ones (ala reigns and their customary leather straps adjoining a wooden beam strung parallel between) - basically its substantially easier to manufacture and less likely to break.
If you can imagine it for a minute, think of what would happen should one oxen struggle forward faster than another: the wooden beam would be pushed at an angle, straining the neck and head of both animals. They have to work together for the device to function properly, so two oxen of relatively similar strength are best yoked. Another thing is that the animals have no way of attempting different headings without having to literally overpower the other animal and then drag it along - which has got to hurt (both animals).
The concept, when applied here, is a bit more compelling, because "strength" has a different meaning - namely willpower. If you can assess the struggle between two people who really only share a single bond (each other) and are harnessed together inseparably... there are just different paths with a common thread. As such, someone is going to end up "on the ground, being dragged along." And its going to hurt, almost without fail.
This, of course, assumes two things: a) that the believer in question is that, is not assessing their Christianity based upon birthright or the popularity of the concept, and is also firmly convinced of the deity of Christ (that may sound redundant,) and b) the relationship in question is marriage or something as comparably close-knit.
Yet this is a command of Paul's, which is not always taken as direct prophetic law-giving, especially in the light of the earlier scripture I pulled (written by the same man, as it were.)
It is doable, but may not be advantageous. As ironic as it may sound, relationships are supposed to be advantageous, but to both parties. If you didn't want to take advantage of the benefiting situation of a marriage, then that would make you a poor spouse. Ad nauseam.
Although it might be a bit of a stretch, to imagine such a relationship in action, it might be worth studying the character and history of Samson (Judges ch. 14-16, mostly)... metaphorically.